Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Without Each other there ain't nothing people can do - oh freedom

Growing up, Passover was an unorthodox affair. My parents had streamlined the Haggadah to pick out all the pieces that they liked best and had adapted the Passover feast to suit our needs. For example, we're vegetarians - for the most part - and having a lamb shank on our table was NOT going to fly. So instead, we have a piece of wood. And there is no Gefilte Fish. My plate doesn't include a hard boiled egg, because I don't like them. Nor does it include wine, because I don't drink (or Matzo you know with the gluten allergy).... What our celebration does include is a lot of talk about this:

No. Not Aretha Franklin nor Lenny Kravitz (who I personally think is at his best when he feels his Motown roots). But Freedom. Freeeee-dom. Let your mind go, and let yourself be free (freedom!). Ahem.

The past few years, since I have moved far far away I decided to not do anything at all in the hopes that someday when I had a home of my own I'd be able to celebrate my favourite holiday exactly as it should be celebrated (in an unorthodox fashion with Aretha. Obviously). But I've been drowning in homesickness this year and desperately wanted to have a Seder to introduce Inspector Climate to fried Matzo and Harosis and perhaps my favourite family tradition. As holidays do, Pesach snuck up on me this year. Inspector Climate already had a work commitment, and I just couldn't imagine holding a whole Seder just for me. Instead, I'll make Harosis and eat it with rice crackers, dip some parsley into salt water, grate some horseradish until I feel the tingle in my nose, and say a few prayers in which I am grateful for the fruit of the vine. I may mention some of the plagues boils! shiver Lice! (gross!) Locusts (the horror!) Death of the first born (ACK!).

So, let's raise our glasses of Manishewitz sparking apple cider and take a few moments to think about freedom. In the words of Aretha "Hey, you think about it!"

Next year in New Hampshire - or at least a real Seder.

I'm going out of town for the long Easter weekend. Have a lovely long weekend, what are your plans? I hope it involves a lot of chocolate


  1. The tingle in your nose from horseradish made me laugh. I love that stuff.

  2. I love Passover dinner! Eventhough I am Catholic, my bff in middle school was Jewish and I always went to Passover dinner at her house.

  3. I had a fake Passover on Sunday. My friends do one every year but this year no one could make it on an actual night. I am not Jewish so it is interesting to sit in on the Seder and have no idea what is going on.

    I'm running a 10K for Easter and then being sad that I am not at home celebrating my grandmother's 75th birthday. I think I may make an egg hunt for my roommates.

  4. Happy Passover! (I'm a fallen Catholic - is that the proper terminology?!)

  5. I hope you have a sweet and lovely weekend!

    My weekend is going to be all about chocolate Easter eggs and fish. Yum.

  6. Happy Passover! Cooking a big dinner for everyone and hoping for some nice weather. We are floating away on Boston right now....

  7. I just read that you are EMPLOYED again, how exciting!
    You might want to keep your blog under your hat at work. I do.

  8. We stopped having passover so many years ago I don't even remember when. I do remember one year I got stuck reading the passage of the Haggadah with the word "ass" and "asses" in it (in reference to donkeys) and I couldn't have been less mature about reading it. I think I might have been 10 at the time.

    Anyway, now I think my parents celebrate with a take out container of brisket and I don't even go home.

  9. It's late but Happy Passover and have a great weekend. As ever, we have a lot of chocolate eggs in our house just waiting to be eaten ....

  10. My favorite part of the seder is Dayenu, when Jews thank God for the many things he has given them, saying "Dayenu" as each of the 15 things is read allowed. Dayenu translates as:

    For that alone we would have been grateful.

    This idea of gratitude for something less that one has now is quite extraordinary to me. I think it's lovely.

    Happy Pesach!

  11. We're not doing a dang thing. I kind of wish we had some sort of tradition, but everything went out the window when we moved here.
    Maybe it's time to move to Europe.

  12. holidays are always hard when you're away from what used to be home. Especially when you're (ahem, in my case pretending) to be a grown up and trying to establish your own traditions. So far Seba and I are zil for 2 with Thanksgiving and Christmas and we've been together for 6 years. I'd love to have our own kind of tradition, but just haven't thought of anything for either of the holidays that I really want to do.

    So as long as you don't make celebrating alone a tradition, I think it's ok to try to do your own thing and maybe fail at it a time or two before it sticks :)

  13. linlah - I know! I love it too.

    Cammy - It's a really nice celebration and I'm glad you got to experience it with your BFF.

    Megs - Aw, an egg hunt sounds great! hope it was fun :)

    The Zadge - I have no idea go and buy discount chocolate now though :)

    DDG - mmm chocolate.

    Meg - Hope the weather was good :)

    Susan - Yes, I am not planning on informing of them of the location of my blog. Nor writing a lot about employment here.

    OG - that's kind of sad. I don't remember the part about the asses. Perhaps that's a part my parents skip.

    Selina - Thank you! Yummers, Easter Eggs!

    Susan - YES! that part is really nice :)

    Jessica - Or perhaps just time for new traditions?

    Kyle - I think a merging of traditions is paramount. :)