Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Finally growing up...

My best friend, Bobo, and I have, until the past week, talked to each other over IM for hours of nearly everyday. In college. In high school. When I moved abroad. When she fell in love. When I fell in love. When she was employed. When I was at Uni. She's the first person I'd talk to when things with a visa were going wrong or going right! She's listened to problems from as small as "I think I just broke a nail" to as large as "mygrandmotherisdyingandiamamillionmilesaway." We've solved many a dilemma together.

But now, we're both employed (go us!) and due to the time change there is no way to talk to her before I go to work, or even worse when I come home with stories about my day. I know it's silly but I miss that instantaneous contact.

When I first started using instant messaging services when I was in middle school, it was because all my friends lived outside the "local" and free calling range from my house. I always thought when I grew up, I'd use more grown up forms of communication like smoke signals the phone. But I am still out of the local and free calling range from everyone I miss.

When I was kid, grown ups always felt so connected. They had boyfriends, wives, husbands, work friends, high school friends, college friends a whole net work of people that they spent time with and connected with. And I do too. Well, no work friends yet. But maybe soon! But I still feel isolated, tucked away into a corner of the world that my family and friends back home can't really imagine. My brothers still ask me sometimes if my mom has sent me garden potatoes this year. I am like "DO YOU KNOW WHERE I LIVE...? Of COURSE she didn't send me potatoes AS IF that would cross customs!"

So while I am struggling to develop a Rut-Tine (wake up at 5:50, read blogs, write in blog, get ready for work, make lunch, pack yoga stuff, take tram, read book on tram, get to work, settle in, work, take tram to yoga, read on tram, go to yoga, come home, unpack lunch box, eat healthy dinner, go to sleep by 9:30), I am also creating new ways to stay connected to the people I love.

Because seriously, what's the point of being a grown up if there is no one to laugh at your blunders that the end of the day with? I ask you.


  1. You do feel isolated so far from home... its not easy and the time differences are hard. At the moment there is 10 hours difference between NZ and France and I just seem to never be at home when I want to talk to anyone. And especially when you have work and other commitments. I even find it difficult to talk to British Boy, and there is only 1 hour difference with time, just because we have different timetables. Emails are good though, how about sending your friend an email. British Boy and I have conversations via email because we are never around at the same time for IM. Even if its just a one line email with something you find funny. Handwritten letters are so lovely to receive too... even if you can't get those home grown potatoes with the parcel!!

  2. Wow you have quite a morning routine. I drag my sleepy ass to work and only really get productive after my first cup of coffee.

  3. I agree with Love and Stuff. You make me feel lazy and I have time in the morning.

    Do you have Skype? I set up Skype dates with my far away friends once a week. We set aside an hour or so and have pretty much a face to face conversation once or twice a week. It's so much harder to stay connected when you get older and work and have families.

  4. Welcome to SITS. We're happy to have you.

  5. Kiwi in france - The time difference is the real killer. I think I am 14 hours different now with my family...(to be honest I never can remember the exact difference - just a lot of difference).

    Love and stuff - I am a total morning person. my night time routine is shove food in my mouth and try to concentrate on a tv show.

    Megs - Skype is my main form of communication with the fam. but The time difference makes it really hard. plus my internet is super slow, so the picture sucks and it's frustrating.

    hotpants - thank you!

  6. Aw well maybe an IM date with Bobo twice a week (one day she stays up late/gets up early and one day you do?). I have been trying to get in touch with my friends in Cali for a week now. That is only a 3 hour time difference and we are failing. It so hard to keep these things going when we are worlds apart (literally not figuratively).

  7. I'm so sorry that I haven't had time to talk or even go on my computer in a really long time! It's been crazy and I've missed your updates! I lova you and missa you!

  8. Yes, what's the point indeed? :)
    It is up to us to make sure that we stay connected.

    Thank you for your sweet comment on my last blog post.

  9. I am the opposite of you, I used to talk on the phone for hours and now I just use all email/chat. Phone is really hard since our internet connection isn't great enough for Skype to work well. Frustrating.

    The hardest part of being a grown up is losing touch.

  10. Megs - I'm sure once we settle into our work lives something will work out. :)

    Becky - don't you fret none! The first week of work is always hectic! :) I lova you!

    DDG - Exactly, what is the point! I miss home! :) Clearly. Your very welcome.

    Kyle - That is the hardest part of growing up!

  11. I get what you are saying! I was just thinking that I haven't talked to my bff from high school in almost a month. She never goes online anymore and now that I am working, I don't have a lot of time to call even if I did want to spend all the money. It sucks.