Monday, May 10, 2010

I hate people. Well, I probably don't hate you. Maybe. At least not all the time.

I am not what you'd call a people person. In fact, I love being alone. Of course I get lonely sometimes, or I did before this whole employment thing happened, but I relished having all that time (unemployed time specifically) to myself.

Maybe it's selfishness or self-awareness or perhaps it's just the inability to be social, but being around people all the time exhausts me.

There are exceptions of course, I don't consider Inspector Climate or Bobo or Muffin or Jess or my housemate people. Let me rephrase that, I consider them my people. And I don't mean that in a possessive "that's my bitch" kind of way, but in "they are part of my clan and get me and don't annoy the ever-living-CRAP out of me when we spend more than 2 hours together" kind of way. Clearly.

Unfortunately, the list of "they are part of my clan and get me and don't annoy the ever-living-CRAP out of me when we spend more than 2 hours together" people is far shorter than the list of people who begin to grate on my nerves. And it's not anyone specifically (usually), but I get so worn out pretending to be a people person at work, at yoga, on the public transport, in the supermarket, walking down the street, or being polite to the people in my building when I see them that on weekends all I want to do is be a recluse. I want to shut myself in my cute little apartment and watch endless episodes of How I Met Your Mother, read books, knit things, read your blogs (because I like you - mostly - especially you! Yes you!). and watch comfort movies until I find people endearing again instead of a pain in my rather flat-ass.

So I just want to take this moment to speak the truth. I am not a people person. And sometimes, even though I have the best intentions, I am not your biggest fan. I am sorry.

But boy, do I feel better now that I've confessed that!

Any confessions you'd like to share?


  1. Yeah... I've not been around as often as I'd like - and much as I'd like to say that's going to change, it's probably not. Not for a while, at least.

    But hey, I'm thinking of ya.

  2. Oh do I feel ya. Being around people all day exhausts me. And just yesterday I had the "I don't know what's wrong with me but lately I just hate everyone, no EVERYONE, except for you" conversation with a friend. So yeah, I get this. Chin up. :)

  3. This happens to me on a regular basis. Normally I like people but when I don't it is like the fires of hell have erupted and it's all I can do to no shove little old ladies in the metro. Seriously. That is my confession: I sometimes hate little old ladies.

  4. I completely get what you're saying. I'm not anti-people, but I like to surround myself with MY people.

    Doing all that social group interaction/after work drinks/knowing everyone's business, it's just not me and is absolutely draining.

  5. If I could surround myself with cool blogger friends I'd be happy! But the freaky people in real life make really good fodder for future posts. It's a challenge some days...

  6. OK, here's a real confession. My husband doesn't travel for work very often. When he does need to spend a night away, I say, "Oh no! I'll miss you!" but what I really think is "Oh goody! I can skip cooking and watch Glee and read till one a.m. and sleep without setting the alarm and let the dog up on the bed."

  7. I don't have people which makes it easier to be a non-people person.

  8. Matthew - Aw, Matthew. That's sweet. It's ok, I haven't been visiting your corner of the internet as often as I'd like either!

    Diary of Why - Thanks! I am glad I am not the only one...

    Ev Rev - I sometimes hate little old ladies too! One yelled at me on the tram the other day, and I may have cried.

    DDG - Seriously, it is SO exhausting. I just can't be that friendly for hours at a time. let's face it, even minutes at a time can be tough.

    Meg - They do make good fodder...although most of them I can't really write about. Stupid employment.

    Susan - Dogs on the bed sounds lovely!

    linlah - I am fairly certain you're one of my people.

  9. I know how to keep myself busy, and don't need people around me every minute of the day. I don't have a lot of friends, but that doesnt really bother me at all. The once I have (my people) accept me for me and I don't need to always entertain them.

    Great post!

  10. I'm not much of a people person either. I do enjoy socialising but I love time alone and plenty of time at home. I need a balance. I particularly struggle with loud people. I like quite people the best.

  11. Funny how it's not really cool to admit that you like time alone and to spend time at home, isn't it?