Monday, December 12, 2011

Wish Outloud: Choices.

It's time for the Wish! {out loud} link up!  I participated a few weeks ago and got some fantastic ideas about how to get started in the career that I want - I haven't really gotten my act enough together to start acting on any of them yet. But soon I will! I promise.

I've loved checking out the other ladies wishes and providing advice where I can.

(As an aside, I just saw this blogger map here at Latte Love that might help Cup 'a Hot Chocolate work on her blogger meet up project! If you know of bloggers in Florida hook 'em up with Cup 'a, ok?)  (Also, I signed up on the blogger map).



Wish out loud



OK, on to my wish.  Nearly every night before we fall asleep, Inspector Climate and I talk about well everything and anything while we cuddle. It's my favourite part of the day. Last night, we were talking about how there seems to be a prevailing trait in people that instead of being happy for others when something happens to them they just ask "why not me?" instead (I'm guilty of it too! But I like to think I, and actively try to,  save the woe for my blog and NOT the person's face). 

But it goes beyond expressing jealousy (and trust, when I say that I think being envious of someone isn't a total bad thing, but it needs to be well balanced with being happy for them too!) instead of joy to seemingly judging people for how they spend their time or money.  "How do you have time to go to yoga 5 times a week? I just don't have the time for that" they say accusingly.  "How do you have the time to read so many books?"

"How do you afford to travel?"

"How do you ____ to _____?"

So, for today, I wish that we take a look at some of the choices we make and ask ourselves if that's how we really enjoy spending our money and our time.  If we find ourselves asking these how do they do that type questions, perhaps it's time to take a look at what we could do make that happen for ourselves.

My two jealous hotspots are travel and when people get new jobs.  I've taken to this thought process regarding the latter: "Yay! Judy got a new job. That's so great for her. She's been looking for one for so long.  This one sounds awesome and is just what she wanted. I've been unemployed forever. I hope that happens for me someday. What did Judy do that I'm not doing? She volunteered more? She has better connections? etc"

What are some choices that you make that if you made a slightly different choice you'd be spending your time or money more how you wish you did? (Uh, does that make any sense at all?).


25 comments:

  1. I'm right where I'm prepared and willing to be.

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  2. Your blog is looking mighty purrrty!

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  3. I love late night chats! Those are the best! :)

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  4. Oh...my, well, I must say I do envy my cousin..at the moment. Maybe its basically, he's everything my grandparents look for in a good grandchild. He's successful, getting married and now getting a wonderful job in Japan.

    This is just not me. None of it. Yet, I like the people I work with and who I'm with. Funny, my cousin's fiancee loves to hear all my stories about my adventures with my significant other.

    Anyway, its the little things I wish I were better at..like writing, and actually crocheted slouchy hat that looks just like the last one I made.

    Oh, and I went to Whole Foods and found a lot of food that I know you would have liked, and I tried them in a vegan salad.

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  5. I love this! I often find myself a little envious of others that may seem to have it "easier" than me. But, I try to balance that with positive wishes. It's true- I envy all those families out there not in a long distance relationship with babies on the way (or already there). That is exactly what I want. Soccer mom. But, right now my fiance is in India for work and I am figuring out my life...to turn a rough patch up-side down, I am trying to get a job as an Au pair in Europe- a dream I have always wanted to make come true. It's time for people to start supporting each other. In doing so, your supporting yourself...

    Hopefully this makes sense. I've had a glass of wine and am a little unsure, LOL.

    Hope you have a great night!

    Bailey
    http://lostandfound-bailee.blogspot.com/

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  6. you're right, it is rather easy to automatically get jealous rather than be happy for someone. it's silly because in the end it's all about priorities, of both your time and your cash and you can only do what you think is the most important.

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  7. It's been a big 18 months of decision making for me.. actually a big five years.. if I'd played my cards differently, I'd be teaching already not trapped in a part time office job, bored out of my brain
    waiting for the clock to hit five.

    But then, I wouldn't have taught dance in the US, wouldn't have backpacked Europe, wouldn't have taken a year to nurse my dying grand father, wouldn't have met my best friends..

    So instead of whining now that some of my other friends are out of uni and in their careers, I kind of applaud myself for having the guts to do what I wanted and taking the scenic route to where I want to be.. not that it makes my job any less boring!

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  8. I always wish I could travel more but right now I try to focus on the fact that we maybe will build a house in a couple of years - which means saving and not travelling as much as we´re used to... And of course I want to eat the cake and keep it so that is a bit frustrating having to cut down on something that is so important to us. Gaaaah! :-D

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  9. I have always been jealous of a girl who we will call Sarah, because that's her name. She's pretty and talented and everything seems to come so easily for her. She has a great job doing something she loves, an awesome condo in Austin with her French husband and enough money to travel whenever they feel like it. What I have to realize is that my life could be like that too, someday. One Husband gets a job and I've paid off some of my debt (or maybe sold my book) then we WILL be able to do those things. But right now I just feel envious. It's hard to keep perspective!

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  10. Glad you stopped over at to our blog yesterday. I am enjoying yours as well!

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  11. I love your layout :)

    My jealous hotspot? The travel one too, but probably more so people who have a washer and dryer in their house...as well as a dishwasher. We are pretty cheap.

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  12. I get what you are saying, for sure. I think I'm in a good spot to be able to do what i want to do but i'm being smart about it, and it's mostly because mark is always so intentional with how he saves, and the goals he works towards...he definitely teaches me a lot of things!

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  13. I find myself envious of people in good marriages. I keep wondering what I did to deserve being in one that ended. However, I know I'm lucky to have so many other great things in my life. I need to be okay with that.

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  14. I hear you. I have a friend who has soooo many things, that I personally would never be able to afford and lives in a place that I couldn't afford. But while at first these things made me jealous I remembered that I don't want that many things as I hate clutter, and I don't need a big new apartment as I love mine and my location. So to each there own, I suppose. As long as everyone is happy :)

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  15. Love your new blog layout. What would I do that's different? Hard to say, but I have to agree with you about travel. I pine for stamps in my passport!

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  16. If my legs weren't being dumb, I'd be working out right now. I really miss it, but I don't want to screw them up even more. I have a dr. appointment in just over a week, so we'll see what's going on with that. I know that I waste more time than I'd like, but overall, I think I'm doing exactly what I want to be doing.

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  17. I totally feel you on this post. I have a deep love for travel and when I'm not getting to go on vacations I'm super jealous of the fabulous ones that I hear people going on. And right now, I'm the same way when it comes to the new jobs.

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  18. I totally did that all the time until this year, when I decided to stop wasting all my money on silly things and actually save so I could travel :) I didn't even realise that I could afford to until I looked at my priorities and let some unimportant things go.

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  19. I do the same thing. I'm in a better place than I was a couple of years ago. I think I'm more confident and mature and it no longer eats away at me when other people get amazing opportunities that I don't, but it does sting every once and a while.

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  20. Love your new blog look! I'm looking for a new job and it the most aggravating thing ever. Sigh. I also wish I was in Scotland in a B&B sipping on Breakfast tea and eating a scone. But you know...I shouldn't complain, on the whole things are great. Ha.

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  21. This is a very deep question! I think that is a very good point to balance out the envy...I know I'm guilty of that! I usually have to remind myself that "Getting what you want doesn't make you happy, it's being happy with what you've got"...a lot tougher than it sounds! But hey, I'm all for goals!

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  22. I'm always thinking about my choices and feel that I could be making better choices when it comes to money. Tsk...I need to learn and do better now!

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  23. What an amazing post. This sentence really resonated with me, "I wish that we take a look at some of the choices we make and ask ourselves if that's how we really enjoy spending our money and our time. "

    After my accident I decided it was time to stop doing things I didn't want to do. Why shoot a wedding for the money if I don't feel a real pull towards the couple? There's no point? Why go to an event out of obligation? What is the obligation? Unless it's somehow making the world a better place I just decided that I was going to stop doing things unless I wanted to.

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  24. Oh man. This is spot on for me. Thanks for this reminder.

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  25. I get jealous of others (frequently!) but try to channel that jealousy into the elbow grease needed to fulfill my own dreams!

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