Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Where did the crazy stereotype come from? Wedding planning is not fun.

This post is brought you by shoe angst

Wedding planning is...ticking along. My wedding dress is being lovingly made by Inspector Climate's aunt.  Using the top of one pattern, the bottom of another pattern, and the lace from my great grandmother's dress when she got married circa 1920.

I've made some big strides and am becoming more accepting about what this wedding is actually about in the last few days. See, I was under the misconceived notion that my our wedding was about...us.

It is about us. But it's not for us. It's for family.

And once I accepted this - it has been much easier for me to accept things that I've been forced to compromise on (I don't want mother flipping meat served at my mother flipping wedding - oh wait! This is not about me).

I'd really like to wear whatever jewelery I damn well please on the day - oh wait! The jewelery isn't for me! It's for my grandmother - fine. I'll wear it. The aforementioned lace? My grandmother cried with joy when she heard I would consider using it in my dress - and thus, how could I then say no? Even though I wanted to.

It's all trivial isn't it?

Well, it was until today. Today when I went to purchase the shoes.

A few weeks ago on twitter, I asked the people about where they buy their ballet flats and Oneika brilliantly suggested Banana Republic - and while I secretly thought she might be crazy, because why would a place like Banana Republic carry burnt orange ballet flats. But ya'll, Oneika is the ballet flat fairy and she sprinkled fairy dust on Banana Republic  for lo, they sell sold orange ballet flats.

I like to think before I buy and so, I waited a week or two before purchasing.

WHY. WHY.

And now they're gone.

If there was a shoe injustice hotline - I'd be on the phone, because I feel this loss immensely.

RIP orange ballet flats.

26 comments:

  1. This post is amazing.

    Nordstrom has cute Frye ballet flats.

    Tab
    my-cliffnotes.blogspot.com

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  2. aw..I hope you find some. I got new TOMS slipper and they feel so good on my feet!

    Oh goodness..I hope there will be something for you 2 at the wedding, too.

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  3. That is one of my least favorite things, waiting and then missing out on something. Ugh.

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  4. Noooooo! That's the WORST. Since I want you to have SOMETHING you really want for your wedding....try these links (I hopped on Pinterest for you & not knowing how much you want to spend gave you some options) Another source, if you're not on Pinterest is shopstyle.com:

    From Dorothy Perkins (I chose Australia for the country for this link):[http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=33053&storeId=12552&productId=2533778&langId=-1&cmpId=&viewAllFlag=false&sort_field=Relevance&beginIndex=1&pageSize=20&categoryId=208739&parent_categoryId=208609&refinements=category~[208955|208739]&noOfRefinements=1&cmpid=awin&_$ja=tsid:19886|prd:92295]

    &

    J. Crew [http://www.jcrew.com/womens_factory_category/shoes/PRDOVR~74672/99102652741/ENE~1+2+3+22+4294967294+20~~~205+17+4294966673~15~~~~~~~/74672.jsp]

    &

    Jill Sander [http://www.net-a-porter.com/product/162532]

    GOOD LUCK!! I know how those things go for wedding planning. Just remember, the end product - the marriage - is what matters most.

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  5. Have you checked j.crew? They've got some crazy colors for spring ...

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  6. It is all about family but look how happy you're making them!

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  7. If you are an 8 1/2 they are still available on the Banana Republic website...

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  8. =( I will keep looking on the internets and let you know if I find something. You are a 7? I can't remember. Sending messages to the shoe fairy for you!!

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  9. It always happens... you find what you want and then you think it would be better to wait a few days to mull it over or for it to go on sale and then its gone! At least the dress is almost done :)

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  10. Nooooo! That is so freaking sad! I think I mentioned to you that Repetto also has ballet flats BUT they are really really expensive. :-(

    I just went back to Banana Republic and bought two more pairs of flats but also went to a store called Office http://www.office.co.uk/ and they have some really great flats as well! Check it out!

    Also, can I recommend checking out Ebay? You may be able to find the ones from Banana Rep!

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  12. Oh it brings it all back. I remember now how stressful it was trying to include what both families wanted but in the end it was all fine. And it will be more than fine for you. I hope you find your shoes. I'm very excited for you and can't wait to see the pictures

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  13. I hope you guys find a way to balance making your wedding about you and your families. I'm sure your dress will be beautiful. Good luck finding your shoes. Don't lose hope!! Try and have some fun.

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  14. Sorry about the shoes- that is rough...:-( I am sure you will find some that are even more perfect!

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  15. Ugh, its so sad when you want to make your wedding your wedding, but then all the opinions start to come in.

    Hope some way some how it can be your wedding again.

    looks like you have great shoe help
    Emily at Amazing Grapes

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  16. Great post! I hope you find them.

    All of the wedding planning is why my husband and I ran away (with 9 guests) and got married in Italy. No stress!

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  17. This page might have something for you: http://www.shopstyle.com/browse?fts=orange+flats

    Also, I did a blog entry a while back on my experience with wedding ceremonies and ways to keep it affordable. It might be worth checking out: http://thingsiliketoeatandothernonsense.blogspot.com/2011/03/wedding-planning-tips-according-to.html

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  18. Wedding planning...I got out of that one and I'm so happy I did! I totally agree that the wedding and all the fixins' are more for the families than for the bride & groom. I'd say make a little list of the things you are absolutely not willing to compromise on and let the rest slide. After all, it is "just" one day in a whole lifetime :)

    I hope you can get your hands (feet?) on those shoes. I, too, know the dreadful feeling of going back to pick up something I saw at a shop, only to find it's no longer there. May the shoe gods be smiling down on you.

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  19. I really hated wedding planning. With a passion. Seriously every other bride I know loves it. Glad we can relate.

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  20. I would probably suggest etsy like another of your readers, but finding them on etsy will take quite a bit of time. I hope you find something you like soon :)

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  21. Oh I hope you everything you need. Relax and take it easy!

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  22. Oh, hon...yeah, sometimes wedding planning can suck it something fierce. But if I can impart any sort of "wisdom" from our experience, being uber-relaxed will do wonders. Thankfully, we didn't have to compromise on too many things, but even with the stressful things we maintained a relaxed attitude.

    And hope everything works out with the shoes, natch...! ::thumbs up::

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  23. Wedding planning is so different than I thought it would be! I love brainstorming, but when it comes down to making decisions, and hearing loads of input from everyone in the world, it's not so fun. Hoping we both find the orange shoes we're looking for! *HUG*

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  24. I always find super cute flats at Target.

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