Sunday, April 22, 2012

I married into a family with a criminal past..

I started this post several weeks ago - but couldn't finish it... until now.

As it turns out, Inspector Climate is a very lucky 27 year old and not because he got to marry me.  Until last week, Inspector Climate had four alive and reasonably healthy grandparents. FOUR.

That was until Tuesday happened. And his paternal grandfather (PG), who was healthy, passed away within 12 hours of collapsing.

The funeral was yesterday and it was both heartbreaking and full of love and celebration of a well spent 84 year old life.

I only knew PG for a few years. But I wanted to jot dot some memories before they fade over time.

The last time we spent any quality time with PG, he sat Inspector Climate down and said "You want to know how to keep a 60 year old marriage happy? Never tell your wife that she is F. A. T." 

He loved talking to me about his one trip over seas to Chicago and getting out the atlas so I could show him the town I'm from in the US.

He loved telling me about Inspector Climate's heritage (Inspector Climate's ancestors were some of the first convicts to come to Australia) about how they went to Tasmania to do more research about their convict past.

Inspector Climate was the first of his grandchildren to get married, and I'm so happy that he got to be there at our Australian wedding. He hugged me after the ceremony and told me how happy he was that I was part of the family now.  He called me Mrs. Inspector Climate even though I eventually decided to not change my name - and when anyone else does it, I grit my teeth and tell myself that I shouldn't yell at them, but when he did it - it didn't seem quite so awful.

While I was struggling with some serious homesickness during the funeral - the way I was included and embraced in the Climate family is certainly part of PG's legacy.  There is no "non" cliche way to say it, but family came first to him - and I'm family.

16 comments:

  1. Aww. It's nice to be loved by your significant other's family, isn't it. I've got similarly loving in-laws, and it always gives me the warm fuzzies thinking about it.

    It sounds like IC has a fine convict heritage.. I've not got one myself, although it seems to be worn like a badge of honour in Australia, I've noticed.

    That PG sounds like he was a clever sort - no woman wants to hear that she is fat (although I'm sure that if IC told you that you'd wonder what he is on - you're a teeny tiny person).

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  2. This is a sweet and touching post. Great job documenting the memories before they fade. xo

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  3. He sounds like a wonderful man. I am so sorry for your and IC's loss. *hugs*

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  4. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss to your family but glad that you were able to be a part of his life. And family

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  5. I'm glad you posted about him. Such great things to remember about him.

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  6. So fun. Love the in laws! Good to remember these fun things. Love your blog!

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  7. I am so sorry for your loss. (((HUG)))

    I, in fact, feel more loved and accepted from my S.O's family, than my family.

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  8. This is bitter-sweet. I'm so very sorry for your loss. But glad you got to know him (and he you) before he passed away

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  9. What an amazing man. I'm glad you had a chance to meet him and learn the family history. I love finding out where people came from. Now you can pass the story to future generations.

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  10. He sounds like a very sweet man. I'm sorry for your and your husband's loss.

    P.S. I also decided not to change my name. It's not really custom here and I never was much of a fan of it.

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  11. Sorry for the loss. He sounded amazing. ::hugs::

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  12. Please accept my condolences, Deids, and send them IC's way along with warm regards. :-(((

    Very sorry for yours and Inspector Climate's loss. Thankfully, though, you got to know this kind man, one who was such an important presence in IC's life.

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  13. This is such a beautiful post. I'm so glad that you got to meet him and get to know him. My mother-in-law passed away, and I didn't even get to meet her :( I'm sorry for you loss...

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  14. wow such a touching post! i'm so sorry to hear your lose but it's awesome that you are documenting the details and reminising about them!!

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  15. It sounds like he was such a sweetheart. I'm sorry for your families loss.

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  16. he sounds like a great block (see, the slang? grew up in Oz)

    and it's wonderful that you got to know him too, now the pair of you have that shared memory of him.

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