Saturday, November 17, 2012

NaBloPoMo Day 17: Life Lessons from Friends

In the pilot episode of Friends, Ross asks the guys to come help him move into his new apartment. They begrudgingly say yes, and then he asks Phoebe and she says something like "I would love to! But I really just don't want to."

I wish it were that easy. I wish that was a valid reason for not spending time with friends when you just need some time by yourself.

As an introvert, I struggle constantly on finding enough time to be along and recharge, but I also feel a lot of guilt every time someone asks me to do something after work or on the weekends and I say no.

I wish it was just acceptable to say "That sounds amazing, but you know what, I don't want to."

Anything that you wish was acceptable, but isn't?

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  1. Hey girl! Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog, I'm a new follower of yours :) I can totally relate to what you're saying. Sometimes I feel guilty too just saying "I don't feel like it, I've had a busy week and I'm too tired"...haha glad to know I'm not the only one who goes through that dilemma!


  2. Have you head about this book/blog - Quiet: The Power of Introverts? I haven't read it, so I don't know if it contains the secret of how to decline invitations to enjoy some me time...or at least how not to feel bad about it. Sounds interesting though.

  3. I think I'm pretty lucky with my friends in that it is perfectly acceptable in their eyes to sneak off and read a book, should you feel in need of some time alone. In fact, I might often find myself with silent, reading company. The Chef is included in that, mostly because his idea of a good day out often involves setting up some folding chairs in the shade and spending some time with our books.

    To answer your question: I wish it was acceptable to tell people on trains or in the car next to you to turn their stupid, too-loud music down without worrying that they'll get mad at you.

  4. I have the opposite problem; I almost always say no. It's a struggle for me to say yes to doing things with people. I NEED a very large amount of alone time to recharge. I have to convince myself that it's okay to say yes once in a while.

    I wish it was acceptable to tell people you have no interest in what they're telling you and that you'd much rather not have to listen to their story. Especially when you've already heard it (sometimes more than once)!

  5. It's easier than you think! And SO empowering. I hope you start doing it soon because down time with yourself is SO IMPORTANT.


  6. Feeling guilty is a form of self-punishment, stop it immediately or I will have to invite you someplace you don't want to go.

  7. Ugh I'm terrible at that. I usually have to come up with some dumb excuse and then I feel like a jerk.

  8. i am so bad at saying no... even when all i want to do is have some time alone, whether its laying around the house and blogging, reading, or shopping... sometimes you just need it!

    i do think its all in how you phrase it.

  9. I struggle with this same exact thing. I have found that I would rather spend time alone than spending time with others. It's not anything against other people, it's just me. I always feel guilty when I say "not tonight" or "not today". So, i always end up doing things with others because of my guilt!

    XO Lourdes

  10. I am giving you full permission to say no/cancel plans with me if you feel you are in the need of alone time.

    This is one of the things I have really struggled with whilst battling depression and I have learnt to give myself the permission to cancel things. If people have an issue with it, well that's their issue!

    I wish it was acceptable to tell loud chewers to chew with the mouth shut.

  11. I am completely and totally with you - sometimes I just don't want to do what everyone else wants to do and I don't want to compromise. I love seeing my friends but I think I love my 'me' time even more

  12. I struggle all the time trying to find a balance between my friends and family and "me time," which I desperately need.

    I think the worst is when strangers try to talk to you on public transportation or in line at Starbucks or whatever. I feel like screaming, "Leave me alone, this is the only private moment I'll have today!!"