Monday, November 26, 2012

NaBloPoMo Day 26: I can't lie to you

I'm not proud of it. In fact I'm a bit embarrassed by it. But it's the truth. Sometimes I succumb to blog jealousy. It's true.

I get jealous of people who have more followers than me but started blogging later then I did (basically everyone since I've been blogging since the beginning of time! Ok, since 2003. Whatever).

I get jealous of people who get to do awesome giveaways!

Get sponsored hotel stays!

So, I get some blog envy. It's true.  Most of the time I'm purely happy for friends who've got their blogs to a place where they're getting sponsored stuff or getting heaps of followers, it's just on the bad days when I think "what am I doing wrong over here."

Mostly, the jealousy fuels a kick in the bum. The only way to get your blog out there is to blog, to comment, to do blog swaps...ie to work at it.

And at the end of the day, my little spot on the internet doesn't need to be bigger. It doesn't need to fancier, flashier, I don't need to give away cars Oprah style. And I don't need 40,000 followers. Because well, that's not why I'm here.

That doesn't mean I won't work at it, it doesn't mean I won't get the pangs now and again. All it means is - this space is just right. Just the way it is.


31 comments:

  1. It's good to know I'm not alone! I sometimes feel my blog might somehow be shinier if I could focus on one particular area, or become an expert in a particular field... but then I think I'd get bored. I love writing my blog for myself and I'm happy with the way it is now. It's an enjoyable, creative outlet and it gives me an excuse to take hundreds of photos to share them with the world.

    I like your blog exactly as it is, too. I never know what's awaiting me: it could be anything from photos to thoughtful musings to delicious recipes - and that's what makes it so much fun to read. :)

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  2. It IS right the way it is, i.e. fantastic, DUH.

    And it could be worse (not that yours is anywhere near bad, you've got an awesome and high number of followers by my standards) -- you could have peaked with 22 followers several months ago, like me.

    Bahahah.

    Seriously, though, no idea why I haven't had one new follower in a while. I refuse to believe it's because I suck. Bwah!

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  3. totally understand what you mean. but sometimes it is nice just to have your loyal fan base of blog friends who regularly visit and leave you posts.
    i stopped intensely blogging last year and my followers havnt increased but i have some time now and im hoping more people will visit.
    you have a fab blog
    ellie x

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  4. It is hard when there are so many other blogs out there...but I always just try to remember why I started blogging...which is for me!!

    (and if you ever give away a car...can I win?) :-)

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  5. I agree. Also, I like to think it's normal to feel that way every now and again. Blogging is, after all, an extension of life. And sometimes you just can't help but feel a little out of sorts when you see what others have and you . . . well . . . haven't. I guess the the key is not to simmer in discontent. :)

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  6. Me too. For a while I thought I'd try to do something about it, but then I realized I didn't have whatever it is that other people with sponsorships and what not do. And I'm not really traveling anymore. And blogging hasn't been as fun - perhaps because I haven't had/made time for it. The twinge of envy is still there, but I'll continue what I've always done -- save up and budget for experiences.

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  7. i'm sure everyone feels like that! but to be honest, keeping up a great blog takes a lot of effort (which i am not patient enough to make..) x

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  8. I have one single solitary follower. And I've had her for over 2 years. I can't even say if I follow any blogs because I'm such a blogging idiot that I don't know how one goes about following a blog. And of course I'm jealous of bloggers who get paid vacations and stuff because they blog about their travels. How the heck do I get someone to pay for me to go on trips?!?! BAH! Okay, now I'm all green with blog envy and need to go distract myself :)

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  9. I love your blog just the way it is! And if it makes you feel better, I've been blogging since 2006 and I only have 24 followers.

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  10. I agree completely- but look at you... Have over over 200 followers and I have only 20 something. You are doing something right!

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  11. I get blog jealous too. Since I don't use blogger, I feel like I don't have as many 'followers' as I should thanks to GFC. It makes it public to everyone who visits a blogger blog how many subscribers they have but I don't have that option.

    Last I checked I only have about 20 followers on feedburner and about 40 on twitter. I wish I had more followers but I'm not willing to be someone I'm not or post things I don't want to just in the hopes of making my blog more popular.

    So the way I try looking at it is this: people are commenting on my posts and I'm able to actually connect with them through the comments they leave on mine and the ones I leave on their blogs. And that's what matters most to me. You just have to find what matters the most to you. :)

    MotivatedMadison.com

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  12. It's hard not to feel that way sometimes! But we all blog for our own reasons. Some people blog to get the followers, others for free stuff, and some blog just for fun as a hobby, or because it makes them happy. And if you still enjoy blogging, then that's all that really matters! :)

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

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  13. I completely understand! We all get the jealousy bug every once in a while.... I appreciate your honesty! Isn't it great though that we have this wonderful opportunity to write anything we want and share it with the world! Of course we want everyone to write what we have written! because WE wrote it! It's a beautiful thing.
    Happy Holidays!

    xoxo
    Liesl

    woodsys-soiree.blogspot.com

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  14. i hear you about the j-word...it gets to me too but honestly we all have to do what works best for us. have fun and it will all come together!

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  15. I think everyone feels this way at times! Seriously, I salute all of the girls who post super cute outfits, have jewelry/craft shops on etsy, can whip up delicious meals and snacks, etc. I don't know how y'all find time for Italy! It's all I can do to microwave something when I get off work :)

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  16. I like your blog because its unique and you do have an adventure to write on so many things.

    So I hope you keep writing and enjoying what you do.

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  17. It all*

    Not Italy.

    There is always time for Italy :)

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  18. I go through the same thing!! I think everyone does. But I too eventually realize that blogging can be a popularity contest, but that's not why I do it either.

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  19. I suffer from blog envy on a weekly basis. Scrap that. Make it daily :P I guess as long as you're enjoying it and most days, you're still excited to write/read comments/be creative and be the best you can, that's really all we can ask of ourselves.

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  20. Yep, me too. My blog has been around since 2007 and I work my butt off. I love it, but it is work too. And sometimes I see other bloggers who don't even return comments and yet they have zillions of followers. Makes no sense.

    But I also don't want to change myself or my blog just to get more followers. I'd rather just be me and be proud of that.

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  21. You get way more comments than I ever do, and I'm super jealous! :-)

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  22. I feel the same way at times AND I have A LOT less followers than you. But then I remember that I blog for myself (not that other bigger blogs don't). It's just it really shouldn't (and doesn't...most of the time) bother me if there are 5 readers or 0 readers.

    All i have to say is, the people that read (including myself) really enjoy your blog and that is what should count!

    Xo Lourdes

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  23. I get envious too, but I do what Ashley does above - remember why I started blogging in the first place. I did it for me, as a sort of self-help project and I have achieved what I set out to do.

    Even so, I find the interaction with readers adds an extra element that makes blogging even more worthwhile and enjoyable. I don't have huge numbers of readers (and even less commenters), but I do have a small group of loyal readers, and I'm happy with that.

    I quickly found I didn't have the time or energy to devote to promoting my blog and reading/commenting on a lot of other blogs, so I feel that unless I'm willing ot make that effort, I should be happy with the way things are. And I am. Blogging has enriched my life immensely.

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  24. Amen!! I feel like this more often than I'd care to admit.

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  25. Blogger envy they call it. I actually read an article about it once. One of my followers has over 2,000 followers!! Anywho, I just came across your blog and would love to be your newest follolwer :)

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  26. Love this post! I think every blogger has times of feeling jealous of other blogs with...more followers, paying sponsors, more comments on their posts, etc. But you're right, that's really NOT why most of us write our blogs, me included. But it's normal to feel this way and I love your honesty. Following you now!

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  27. You're a little gem and other blogs should be jealous of you, darling.

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  28. I'm the same. I rarely get anyone commenting on mine and although I write for the fun of it, it would be nice to get more people who want to comment. I prefer to have randomers drop by than followers who never bother reading anything. I just can't focus on one thing which probably makes it difficult to get into but I know mine will never be populated like others so I'll continue writing and hope that sometimes I get a visitor. It happens sometimes

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