One of the best things about everyone else (and it does seems like everyone else - am I right?) doing blog every day in May is that I've found a lot of new blogs. Like a lot of new blogs. One of my new (to me) favourites is Christina from The Murrayed Life and she asked her husband what her worst quality is and he said "nagging". I commented back that nagging is a two way street (we're thinking of making t-shirts, who wants one?).
It's quite the cliche isn't it, the nagging wife and the husband who just doesn't do it. My best friend Anne and I recently had this discussion as well. We don't want to nag! It's not a barrel of laughs, boys (boys? are there any here?). I like to think I don't nag Inspector Climate about things too much but there a couple of examples that come to mind about times I've nagged and it's turned out to be things he loves now.
1. Buying organic/locally grown food. Inspector Climate used to shop exclusively at the StupidMarket. I'd nudge at him to buy the organic bananas and he'd roll his eyes and get a little annoyed. It wasn't the cost that put him off, it was just the idea of having to pay attention to what he is putting in his basket.
Now, he rejoices in weeks we don't have to go to the Stupid Market at all, and reads books about organic food.
2. Reading aloud. I mentioned this before. But for about six months I asked Inspector Climate if he thought it would be nice if I read aloud to him while he did the dishes and he had so many reservations! What if he couldn't hear me? What books could we possibly read? THAT SOUNDS LAME. People will judge us (people do think it is weird, and I don't really understand why...maybe it's too cutesy? I don't know)
Now, he loves it. It's become our favourite part of the day and has increased the amount of reading we do. Plus we have extra things to laugh about and talk about because we're reading the same book at the same time.
I get why I do the nagging, I want him to try something new. But why does he (and by he, I mean males in general) resist the doing? If he hated the reading aloud, we wouldn't have kept doing it! If he had a reason for not liking organic food (we wouldn't have gotten married), then you know...whatever.
I mean, I understand why nagging is annoying, but can't we all work together. The 'nagging wife' is a cliche for a reason, but so is the 'stubborn and lazy husband' (Inspector Climate is anything but lazy). Let's stop the shenanigans.
Nagging is a two way street, my friend.
Then I asked Inspector Climate what my worst trait was and he paused and didn't want to say anything so I began to offer some examples up. He settled on the fact that I will refuse to pack food for myself and then I'll get starving, super grouchy, and generally unpleasant to be around. Lucky, lucky man.