Monday, November 11, 2013

NaBloPoMo Day 11: Marriage

Friday was Inspector Climate's and my second marriage anniversary.  Two years. We don't really celebrate the day - which is exactly how I wanted it to be. In fact, I barely remember the date (I probably wouldn't remember the date unless I wrote it down). And that in itself is kind of a relief to me, I wrote so many posts about how challenging it was for me to get married and having people make any sort of 'deal' out of it when our wedding wasn't go to be for another year. But anyway, here we are, at the end the of anniversary season.


I read a lot of blogs where people write about how hard marriage is. Maybe because it's only been two years, but being married to Inspector Climate isn't hard at all. Recently, just being in my own company has been hard for me (for me, to be with me...yeah, I know). And I can't blame any of the "hardness" of marriage on Inspector Climate, but on our own expectations.

I feel horrible that I haven't landed a job and feel like I'm completely strangling our finances.

Inspector Climate feels guilty sometimes that we're stuck living in a city for his job when we'd both rather live in the country. I never think of this as something that is his fault at all and I certainly would never blame him for it.

Besides our own expectations of ourselves, the togetherness has never been all that difficult. 

I basically still feel like this:


13 comments:

  1. Happy belated anniversary. What a beautiful photo of you both :) Wishing you many more happy (and easy!) years of marriage together.

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  2. YAY for love!! Happy two year anniversary :)

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  3. I think that more often than not, it's each of us getting i the way of marriage, not the marriage itself that is hard. Congratulations on making it work for the last two years!

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  4. in my opinion, a marriage is truly tested when you have children because now that time is being split with kids who are always demanding! and this is where the "work" comes in - the time that you always used to have for yourselves now has to be shared and divvied up so that you have time to yourself, your kids, your family as a whole, friends and your husband!!

    the marriage itself isn't hard but generally the people who are involved are the ones who make it hard; we can choose to pick our battles or we can nitpick when something annoys us. we can choose to put date night on the backburner when we're tired or we can choose to go out anyway!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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    1. I definitely can see why kids would put a strain on a relationship - however most of the posts about marriage being "hard" have been from people who have been married about the same amount of time I have and are currently without the children.

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  5. Deidre....
    Happy, happy, happy anniversary, Friend!! ;-D
    --Raelyn

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  6. That photo of you makes me want to throw MY hands in the air and celebrate! Happy anniversary, and I'm so glad you made that comment about people saying marriage is hard... because for us it isn't, either! Sure there are certain things or days that are a little bit of a struggle, but overall marriage has been overwhelmingly wonderful and I'm so happy to be spending my life with my own personal price charming. It makes me happy to hear you feel the same way. :-)

    Sarah @ Life As Always

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  7. Happy anniversary my friend. You look beautiful in the pictures!

    :)

    XO Lourdes

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  8. Never question joy in a marriage. Embrace it. Marriage can be hard, and our expectations can certainly make it harder. Two years is still new and shiny - love every second of it! When really hard times hit, and every life has them, regardless of marital status, the memories are what will get you through.

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  9. Happy Anniversary! I think it says a lot when you don't need to focus on that one day so much because you are just so darn happy to be married to the guy every single day. I agree. Marriage isn't that hard. People think I'm deluded when I say that but we are 5 years in right now and there may have been a bump here and there about socks on the floor or other such nonsesne but overall it's just the best.

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  10. Happy (belated) anniversary! I like that you say that it isn't hard....there are so many posts about how HARD relationships are and I just don't think it should be like that!

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  11. Happy Anniversary! I can't believe it's already been two years!

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  12. I came over to this post from your most recent one! Happy much belated anniversary! And Angel one who is firmly convinced that marriage does not have to be hard simply because so many people say it is. There can be a whole lot of joy, too!

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